Showing posts with label faith. Show all posts
Showing posts with label faith. Show all posts

Sunday, March 11, 2007

The Newlyweds

It was a beautiful wedding and I really enjoyed seeing my oldest friend so happy.
I think I came across sounding harsher than I intended in my previous post because we still get together a few times a year and for the most part we do enjoy each other's company. But rarely does our time together go by without religion coming up. Which is the part that I can do without. When she first moved to the Bay Area 3 years ago and we reestablished our friendship, I knew that I had some preconceived notions about her faith and I wanted to clarify them so I wouldn't make any judgments. I suppose those conversations led her to believe that I was searching for God and she thought of it as an open door to try to bring me to her church. She's also very blunt while I try to be conscientious in my approach of uncomfortable conversations and not hurt anyones feelings, so I haven't told her to just stop (I know, I need to). Whenever our conversations turn to religion, it just feels like her idealisms clump all the rest of us as sinners, and that makes me uncomfortable.
On a funny and somewhat predictable note, her pastor approached Jimmy and I and asked how we knew the newlyweds. He was advocating hard for the two of us to join him during his Sunday services. During our drive home, we chatted about how nice it was of him to want to save us from eternal damnation.

Since we're on the topic, I thought I'd share another one of my stories of a faith intervention. Spring of 1998, my car needed a smog check so I brought it in to the local garage. I forgot to turn off my stereo and was listening to a song by Cake called "Sheep Go To Heaven". After my car was serviced, the man approached me and gave me a business card - to his church. He said "I'd like to invite you to my church. You were listening to a song and the lyrics said 'Sheep go to heaven, goats go to hell'. Those lyrics are wrong and you shouldn't be listening to music like that. I really think you might find some guidance here. I hope to see you next Sunday."

Thursday, March 08, 2007

Window Shopping

After last week's spree, I had to become content with window shopping. The bad thing about having a mini shopping spree is that it's addicting. Last week I said I don't typically like malls, yet I found myself at one again today. I have a good excuse though: we're going to a wedding tomorrow and I needed to get a gift. So, aside from the gift for the newlyweds and 2 magazines, my venture to the mall was merely an excuse to take photos.

Ted Baker always has the coolest window displays:


I can't resist chickens, especially these feathered friends at Sur La Table:


And I was happy to see that one of my favorite stores is coming soon, 4 miles from my front door, rather than having to go to San Francisco or Berkeley:


A few of you asked what the little designer bag that I bought last week looked like. Now that the husband has clued in and I even spilled the beans on the ducats it cost (as if he wouldn't find out when the credit card statement came in), well...here's the precious little thing:
Fits my little camera, cell phone, CC and DL and car keys.

My oldest friend is getting married tomorrow; we go back since the 3rd grade. We were the very best of friends till high school graduation, but with college and different life choices, our paths went in opposite directions. We made efforts to maintain our friendship because we had so much history together, but her judgments regarding my spiritual path were too heavy for her and she couldn't put our differences aside and accept me for who I am. I was a heathen destined for hell because I chose to see, learn and believe more about alternate views on faith and not base my spirituality solely on the writings in the Bible and the United Pentecostal Church. My beliefs are simple, God is Love and God is in all things so love is in all things. God created all of us equal, not just all Christians as equals. I'm happy that she finds strength and comfort in her faith and that she's so passionate about it. I even understand her concerns about me - she doesn't want me to go to hell. I just find her to be close minded and judgmental and unwilling to accept people for who they are. But I'm happy with where I stand and where I am growing spiritually. I'm still searching for answers, every day. But I do know that her path definitely is not my path. I accept that, but I don't know if she can.

It's odd to me the direction of where this post went. When I first started the paragraph about going to the wedding tomorrow, I initially was going to question what I was going to wear. The female parishioners can't wear pants and don't cut their hair or wear make-up. Sleeves can't be any shorter than 3/4 length, no elbows showing. The men also can't show elbow, short hair and no facial hair are required. I don't know what I'm expected to wear. How formal of a wedding is it going to be? It's an evening wedding, but on a Friday and it's both their 2nd marriages. I have 3 skirts, all of them casual, but that's what I've got. No dresses. I suppose I'll figure something out, but I'm definitely wearing make up.

Friday, November 03, 2006

Monday, August 07, 2006

St. John the Evangelist

St. Patrick's Cathedral, NYC.

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